Monthly: September 2018

Responsibility for Ourselves

September 25, 2018

Caretaking: the act of taking responsibility for other people while neglecting responsibility for ourselves. When we instinctively feel responsible for the feelings, thoughts, choices, problems, comfort, and destiny of others,…

True to Ourselves

September 25, 2018

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou ‘canst not then be false to any man. — WILLIAM SHAKESPEARE…

What can you do?

September 24, 2018

Mr. Potter celebrated his hundredth birthday by doing a bungee jump from a 210 foot tower. When his physician of many years advised him against it, he simply got a…

Relationships

September 23, 2018

There is a gift for us in each relationship that comes our way. Sometimes the gift is a behavior we’re learning to acquire: detachment, self-esteem, becoming confident enough to set…

Become willing

September 22, 2018

There’s nothing against you to fall down flat But to lie there—that’s disgrace. — Edmund Vance Cooke  Sometimes the problem isn’t that we don’t believe we can. The problem is…

Enjoying Life

September 21, 2018

Do something fun today. If you’re relaxing, let yourself relax, without guilt, without worrying about the work that is undone. If you’re with loved ones, let yourself love them, and…

A miracle is taking place

September 20, 2018

One evening, I was sitting with my children around the dinner table. Shane was talking about his plans for the next day. Nichole was planning a pajama party. I was…

Let’s Make a Deal

September 19, 2018

The relationship just wasn’t working out, and I wanted it to so badly. I kept thinking if I just made myself look prettier, if I just tried to be a…

Let yourself be uncomfortable

September 18, 2018

“It seems as though everything you do for fun terrifies you,” my friend Andy said to me one day. “What’s that about?” I thought about his question. It was true.…

Anger

September 17, 2018

Feeling angry—and, sometimes, the act of blaming—is a natural and necessary part of accepting loss and change—of grieving. We can allow ourselves and others to become angry as we move…