Monthly: October 2018

Improvise

October 23, 2018

Do not fear mistakes; there are none. — Miles Davis  Life is a jazz tune. Sometimes it’s raucous, sometimes blue, but always full of unexpected twists and turns, and here…

Cause and Effect

October 23, 2018

When my son died, I didn’t want to play the game anymore. His death broke every rule I thought was important. His death hurt my trust—not my faith—in God. It…

Allowing Ourselves to Be Nurtured

October 22, 2018

Let yourself be nurtured and loved. Let people be there for you. Allow yourself to be held when it would feel good. Let someone listen to you, support and encourage…

Undo your mistakes

October 21, 2018

“Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.” This is the Tenth Step of the Alcoholics Anonymous Twelve Step program. It’s also a step that…

Grief and Action

October 20, 2018

Trust in God and do something. — MARY LYON It’s important to let ourselves grieve as a passage between yesterday and tomorrow. But we do not have to be controlled…

Be persistent

October 19, 2018

Earlier in this book, I talked about how little drops of rain, over the years, could wear pockets and indentations into stones. I used this as an analogy to demonstrate…

The Victim Trap

October 18, 2018

The belief that life has to be hard and difficult is the belief that makes a martyr. We can change our negative beliefs about life, and whether we have the…

Teach others they can, too

October 17, 2018

One good way to help ourselves believe we can is by helping others learn they can, too. Some of us call this “being of service.” In Twelve Step programs, they…

Benefits of Recovery

October 16, 2018

There are two benefits from recovery: we have short-term gains and long-term gains. The short-term gains are the things we can do today that help us feel better immediately. We…

There’s freedom in letting go

October 15, 2018

Sometimes we gain freedom not only by letting go ourselves, but by helping someone else let go of us. A child rounds a corner on her little purple bike, one…