Do not fear mistakes; there are none. — Miles Davis  Life is a jazz tune. Sometimes it’s raucous, sometimes blue, but always full of unexpected twists and turns, and here…

Let yourself be nurtured and loved. Let people be there for you. Allow yourself to be held when it would feel good. Let someone listen to you, support and encourage…

“Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.” This is the Tenth Step of the Alcoholics Anonymous Twelve Step program. It’s also a step that…

Trust in God and do something. — MARY LYON It’s important to let ourselves grieve as a passage between yesterday and tomorrow. But we do not have to be controlled…

Earlier in this book, I talked about how little drops of rain, over the years, could wear pockets and indentations into stones. I used this as an analogy to demonstrate…

The belief that life has to be hard and difficult is the belief that makes a martyr. We can change our negative beliefs about life, and whether we have the…

One good way to help ourselves believe we can is by helping others learn they can, too. Some of us call this “being of service.” In Twelve Step programs, they…

There are two benefits from recovery: we have short-term gains and long-term gains. The short-term gains are the things we can do today that help us feel better immediately. We…

Sometimes we gain freedom not only by letting go ourselves, but by helping someone else let go of us. A child rounds a corner on her little purple bike, one…