Monthly: November 2018

Letting Go

November 30, 2018

“How much do we need to let go of?” a friend asked one day. “I’m not certain,” I replied, “but maybe everything.” Letting go is a spiritual, emotional, mental, and…

Enjoy the void

November 29, 2018

We begin to walk down a path—recovery, a new job, a new relationship. We’re busy, even overwhelmed, with everything that lies before us. We work and work and walk our…

Developing Healthy Tolerance

November 28, 2018

Many of us are skilled at denying and discounting what hurts us. We may endure a particular situation, telling ourselves repeatedly it’s not that bad; we shouldn’t be so demanding;…

The lesson is joy

November 27, 2018

I was visiting a counselor in Minnesota one cold January day in 1991. We were talking about the present and speculating about the lessons to come. She grabbed my hand…

Putting Our Life on Hold

November 26, 2018

We cannot afford to put our needs on hold, waiting for another person to fulfill us, make our life better, or come around and be who and what we want…

Say how sweet it is

November 25, 2018

Many of us have been seeking diligently for the meaning of life, at least for the meaning of our lives. I thought I had found it when I began recovering…

Letting People Be There for Us

November 24, 2018

Sometimes, we need nurturing. Sometimes, we need people to support us. Many of us have been deprived of support and nurturing for so long we may not realize it’s something…

Believe in the magic of life

November 23, 2018

Listen to the Never haves Then listen close to me— Anything can happen, child, Anything can be. — Shel Silverstein  All around us every day are those who would have…

Detachment

November 22, 2018

One day, my son brought a gerbil home to live with us. We put it in a cage. Some time later, the gerbil escaped. For the next six months, the…

There’s magic for you, too

November 21, 2018

I was looking at a photo of my friend Chip. In it, he’s sitting beside his battered, old Volkswagen looking nearly as tired and battered as the car. But he’s…