All posts by Melody Beattie

Off the Hook

August 23, 2016

We can learn not to get hooked into unhealthy, self-defeating behaviors in relationships—behaviors such as caretaking, controlling, discounting ourselves, and believing lies. We can learn to watch for and identify…

What do you want?

August 22, 2016

Imagine walking up to the counter at the local fast-food restaurant and asking if they had your order ready. “What order?” the counterperson would ask. “Did you phone one in?”…

Practice – Day 7

August 21, 2016

Practice a value that applies to a life problem right now. Do the best you can. You don’t have to do it perfectly. That’s why we call it practice. Our…

Practice – Day 6

August 20, 2016

When I first started learning about values like letting go, ex pressing my feelings honestly, and surrendering, I thought, “Oh, how nice. This was the lesson. I’ll just apply it…

Practice – Day 5

August 19, 2016

It happened in my first year or two of sobriety. The old part of me took over, and I couldn’t think of one good reason in the world not to…

Practice – Day 4

August 18, 2016

When my son died, I didn’t want to play the game anymore. His death broke every rule I thought was important. His death hurt my trust—not my faith—in God. It…

Practice – Day 3

August 17, 2016

It’s easy to become lazy and complacent, but living our values requires daily practice. It’s also tempting to compartmentalize our lives. “Oh, I believe in values like honesty and surrender,”…

Short Blog, Long Walk

August 16, 2016

Faith is knowing there’s a light at the end of the tunnel — even if it’s turned off. Be back soon blogging away; for now, I’m crushed by paperwork. Meanwhile,…

Practice – Day 2

August 16, 2016

Keep throwing values at the problem. Eventually something will stick. Application: Consider each day of your life as an opportunity to consciously learn, practice, or apply values that are important…

Practice – Day 1

August 15, 2016

When I began studying martial arts, I felt awkward about the moves I was learning. “Can’t you give me a book?” I asked my instructor. “I need a set of…