All posts by Melody Beattie

Say what’s next best

March 23, 2017

Okay, so you can’t have what you want most in life. What’s next on your list? If you can’t have what you really want, put that aside. It’s a no.…

Letting Things Happen

March 22, 2017

We do not have to work so hard at gaining our insights. Yes, we’re learning that painful and disappointing things happen, often for a reason and a higher purpose. Yes,…

Say what you can’t have

March 21, 2017

“Why is it,” one man asked, “that if I walk into a room with one hundred women, the one I’m attracted to will either be engaged to someone else or…

Communication

March 20, 2017

Part of owning our power is learning to communicate clearly, directly, and assertively. We don’t have to beat around the bush in our conversations to control the reactions of others.…

What do you want?

March 19, 2017

“I went to the grocery store to pick up a few things,” a friend said. “I stood in front of the condiments section, staring at the pickles and olives. What…

Perfectionism

March 18, 2017

Recovery from codependency is an individual process that necessitates making mistakes, struggling through problems, and facing tough issues. Expecting ourselves to be perfect slows this process; it puts us in…

Let yourself make mistakes

March 17, 2017

There are times we don’t know which way to proceed or what to do next. We can become so blocked and stymied trying to figure it out that we just…

Enjoyment

March 16, 2017

One of the prohibitions many of us learned in childhood is the unspoken rule Don’t have fun and enjoy life. This rule creates martyrs—people who will not let themselves embrace…

Is it what you really want?

March 15, 2017

“Are you still in that relationship?” I asked a friend one day. “If I were really sick, I could be,” my friend said. “But I’ve decided not to do that…

Depression Cycle

March 14, 2017

We all like to feel comfortable. But doing something new, especially taking an action to change, usually doesn’t feel comfortable. It feels awkward and strange. Sometimes depression and anxiety can…