All posts by Melody Beattie

Letting Go in Love

September 27, 2016

When people with a compulsive disorder do whatever it is they are compelled to do, they are not saying they don’t love you—they are saying they don’t love themselves. —…

Watch out for that “woohoo”

September 26, 2016

That’s not flying. . . . It’s falling, with style. — Woody, Toy Story There is a term in skydiving called relative work. That means you’re controlling your fall rate…

Letting Go of Guilt

September 25, 2016

Feeling good about ourselves is a choice. So is feeling guilty. When guilt is legitimate, it acts as a warning light, signaling that we’re off course. Then its purpose is…

Owning Our Power

September 23, 2016

We need to make a distinction between powerlessness and owning our power. The first step in recovery is accepting powerlessness. There are some things we can’t do, no matter how…

Revel in the void

September 22, 2016

In the original Language of Letting Go, I talked about the in-between places in our lives. Those are the uncomfortable places along the journey where you’re not where you were…

Stopping Victimization

September 21, 2016

Before recovery, many of us lacked a frame of reference with which to name the victimization and abuse in our life. We may have thought it was normal that people…

Stare in the face of your fears

September 20, 2016

Examine your fears. Sometimes we’re afraid of specific things. Sometimes we fear the unknown. And sometimes we’re just afraid, because that’s the way we usually feel. Are you nervous, anxious,…

Financial Responsibility

September 19, 2016

We are responsible for ourselves financially. What a frightening, grown-up thought that is for many of us—taking responsibility for money and our financial affairs. For many of us, handing over…

Challenges – Day 7

September 18, 2016

So it’s a little uncomfortable. Stretch. Strain. See what you’re capable of? Prayer: Show me what I am capable of achieving with your help. Make me who I am meant…