Daily Meditations

Buddhist Monk in Mountains

Say when it’s time to stop coping

May 18, 2017

In her book Recovering from the Loss of a Child, author Katherine Fair Donnelly writes of a man whose infant daughter, Robyn, died from SIDS (sudden infant death syndrome). The…

Letting Go of Fear

May 17, 2017

Fear is at the core of codependency. It can motivate us to control situations or neglect ourselves. Many of us have been afraid for so long that we don’t label…

Say when it’s worn out

May 16, 2017

Throw it away when it wears out. John and Al were talking one day about a mutual friend, someone they both knew and liked. “Mark thinks he has to be…

Feeling Good

May 15, 2017

Make yourself feel good. It’s our job to first make ourselves feel better and then make ourselves feel good. Recovery is not only about stopping painful feelings; it is about…

Learn when to say “no” and “yes”

May 14, 2017

Read the following sentences out loud. “No.” “No, this doesn’t work for me.” “No, thank you. This doesn’t feel right to me.” “No. This isn’t right for me at this…

Control

May 13, 2017

Many of us have been trying to keep the whole world in orbit with sheer and forceful application of mental energy. What happens if we let go, if we stop…

Know when to say “no”

May 12, 2017

Saying no is another way of saying when. For some of us, the hardest word in the language to speak is the short, simple word no. Instead of saying no,…

Freedom from Compulsive Disorders

May 11, 2017

Thank you for keeping me straight yesterday. Please help me stay straight today.—PARAPHRASED FROM ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS When I first began my recovery from codependency, I was furious about having to…

Say when it’s too much

May 10, 2017

I was sitting at the bus stop many years ago watching impatiently for the bus. I had been patient for so long—taking the bus to the grocery store, lugging big…

Freedom from Self-Seeking

May 09, 2017

Please free my thinking of self-will, self-seeking, dishonesty, and wrong motives.—PARAPHRASED FROM ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS There is a difference between owning our power to take care of ourselves, as part of…