Letting Go

Detaching with Love

November 20, 2018

Sometimes people we love do things we don’t like or approve of. We react. They react. Before long, we’re all reacting to each other, and the problem escalates. When do…

Feeling Overwhelmed Is a Trap

October 09, 2018

Feeling overwhelmed is a trap, a tricky one at that. When we’re overwhelmed, we see all that needs to be done and say, That’s too much. I can’t do it.…

Doing My Part

June 19, 2018

The surest way to become Tense, Awkward, and Confused is to develop a mind that tries too hard—one that thinks too much. — Benjamin Hoff, The Tao of Pooh The…

Slow Down and Let Go

June 05, 2018

On a road trip up the California coast a while back, I tried to call home only to find that the batteries in my cell phone had died. I worried.…

The Magic Is in You

April 10, 2018

Sometimes, we play a little trick on ourselves. We may get so close to someone, we think, I don’t have to let go. Or we may become so successful at…

Holiday Triggers

February 27, 2018

One year, when I was a child, my father got drunk and violent at Christmas. I had just unwrapped a present, a bottle of hand lotion, when he exploded in…

You Decide

January 31, 2017

This is an old lesson, but it bears repeating and remembering. We don’t have to let anyone control our lives, our choices, our joy. No matter how well we thought…

Choosing Positive Affirmations for Recovery

December 06, 2016

One of our choices in recovery is choosing what we want to think—using our mental energy positively. Positive mental energy, positive thinking, does not mean we think unrealistically or revert…

There’s No Shame in Being CoDependent

October 25, 2016

After learning about codependency and the behaviors involved with it, and then working on choosing different behavioral options such as detaching, letting go, feeling my emotions and setting and enforcing…