Relationships

Detaching with Love

November 20, 2018

Sometimes people we love do things we don’t like or approve of. We react. They react. Before long, we’re all reacting to each other, and the problem escalates. When do…

Responsibility for Ourselves

September 25, 2018

Caretaking: the act of taking responsibility for other people while neglecting responsibility for ourselves. When we instinctively feel responsible for the feelings, thoughts, choices, problems, comfort, and destiny of others,…

Accepting Help

July 31, 2018

Some of us have felt so alienated that we’ve forgotten we’re not alone. We’ve come to believe that we have to do it ourselves. Some of us have been abandoned.…

The Magic Is in You

April 10, 2018

Sometimes, we play a little trick on ourselves. We may get so close to someone, we think, I don’t have to let go. Or we may become so successful at…

Holiday Triggers

February 27, 2018

One year, when I was a child, my father got drunk and violent at Christmas. I had just unwrapped a present, a bottle of hand lotion, when he exploded in…

Say How Sweet It Is

February 13, 2018

We don’t pick fights and create drama with our friends, just to keep passion alive. Usually we do everything we can to avoid fighting with our friends. We want our…

Discover Common Bonds

January 16, 2018

“So many people have lost their families,” the man said to me. “I have. But I’m beginning to discover that I’m part of a larger family, too. I’m beginning to…

Herpes is Forever

August 15, 2017

By S. Levin I hate Herpes. The name reminds me of something dirty and grimy. Herpes reminds me of crabs, spiders, and locusts. I don’t like anything about it. It’s…

Developing Healthy Tolerance

February 14, 2017

Many of us are skilled at denying and discounting what hurts us. We may endure a particular situation, telling ourselves repeatedly it’s not that bad; we shouldn’t be so demanding;…