Let yourself make mistakes

March 17, 2017

There are times we don’t know which way to proceed or what to do next. We can become so blocked and stymied trying to figure it out that we just sit and spin our wheels.

In those situations, the solution may involve making some choice—even if it turns out to be the wrong one.

Ideally, we can meditate on our choices and one way will feel right and clear, and the other won’t. But in those times when we can’t get clear, sometimes we have to give things a try. Take that job. Move into a condo. Date that woman. If it’s a mistake, you can correct it as honestly, quickly, and humbly as you can.

You don’t have to live life nearly as perfectly as you think. Sometimes it takes making a mistake in order for us to get clear.

God, help me let go of perfectionism. Help me give myself permission to live.

From the book: More Language of Letting Go

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  • Tedo Ronk

    Thanks melody this am I was like a deer frozen by the headlights but things are working out loosening up ! Finding good orderly direction .

    • Good. We usually do if we let go and seek it… Melody Beattie

      • Tedo Ronk

        I saw the little old lady counsellor that turned me on to codependent no more today at a meeting loved seeing her she was really happy that I’m participating on your site . I’m glad to have met her she’s quite old and frail and I’m glad that she’s able to see her success in me as I don’t see anyone that was in our group. I was able to give her a hug and my love .will miss her when she’s gone . Thanks always melody you’re friend always el teddo !!!

      • Tedo Ronk

        Melody did you block me on Facebook ?

        • Nope. (Answered this elsewhere — but I want to assure you, I didn’t.) What happened (I guess), is that someone tried to hack my FB account, so FB locked up??? If that makes sense. My web team is working on straightening it out — but please know that you add so much to this site, Tedo. I wouldn’t lock you out. And I apologize or what you — and anyone else — went through, being locked out. Best, Melody Beattie

    • Nope — I wouldn’t block you. Looks like someone tried to hack into my FB account (according to my web team), so FB locked my site. They’re taking care of it — but let me know if you have more problems. I’ve been writing, so I haven’t been checking my emails like I normally do …. and just now found this one. So sorry for the inconvenience. Melody Beattie