Rescuing Ourselves

February 13, 2018

No one likes a martyr.

How do we feel around martyrs? Guilty, angry, trapped, negative, and anxious to get away.

Somehow, many of us have developed the belief that depriving ourselves, not taking care of ourselves, being a victim, and suffering needlessly will get us what we want.

It is our job to notice our abilities, our strengths, and take care of ourselves by developing and acting on them.

It is our job to notice our pain and weariness and appropriately take care of ourselves.

It is our job to notice our deprivation, too, and begin to take steps to give ourselves abundance. It begins inside of us, by changing what we believe we deserve, by giving up our deprivation and treating ourselves the way we deserve to be treated.

Life is hard, but we don’t have to make it more difficult by neglecting ourselves. There is no glory in suffering, only suffering. Our pain will not stop when a rescuer comes, but when we take responsibility for ourselves and stop our own pain.

Today, I will be my own rescuer. I will stop waiting for someone else to work through my issues and solve my problems for me.

From the book: The Language of Letting Go: Hazelden Meditation Series

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  • 1goodamerican

    good reading if it were only about ourselves but as codependent I note and see others Martyring for the others trying to save the Moth from flames while ignoring the facts of our own lives, drama is a trigger for codependents we thrive on assisting and helping solve other peoples issues ignoring the OCD we ourselves are exhibiting so I truly believe a sign of healing is allowing the Moth to get burnt, allowing the bruises and injury, because to rescue is only an EGO driven status and soon is forgotten the rescuer must look for others to rescue in order to neglect their own recovery thank God he is doing for me what I could not do for myself stop getting entangled in others lives