1. Debbie Crews

    Thank you for sharing this story. I don’t know what it’s like to lose all my children in the way this woman has had to. But I did lose my daughter Jody, five years ago and in some way, I lost my son too. Death sometimes has a way of closing hearts. My son, Jeremy, lost both his dad and sister. He shut down and pulled away. I can’t get him back. That’s where unconditional love seeps in. I love him regardless… and my daughter too.. forever… Thank you

  2. Debbie Crews

    How deeply sad someone has gone through these unimagineable things, yet has the strength and wisdom to see PURPOSE in it. The lives she touches will be forever changed.

    • Melody

      Although she sees purpose in it, and as you know based on what you’ve been through — finding purpose in an event doesn’t mean we escape the pain from it. Like the nurse in the ICU ward told me when my son died, “This is the hardest thing you’ll ever go through and it will take at least 8 years — but you will get through it.) I tend to be a record breaker. It didn’t take me 8 years; it took 10. And I don’t know we ever get “through it” but we somewhat make peace with the unthinkable and find quality of life and ability to function. Grief is a strange time — it’s a holy place that most people don’t understand while we’re on a long, long journey that brings us new teachings, one piece at a time and ultimately leaves us transformed. We’ll never be the same again, and I don’t believe we’re meant to. Thanks for both your comments. Peace and blessings — and I’m sorry about all the loss you and your family have been through. Teenagers and children tend to resist their grief. They don’t want to feel the pain, so they wait until they’re older (like us) and then get a therapist. Best, Melody

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