How to Take Action for Change

January 17, 2017

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“How do I change?” a woman asked her friend.

“HOW,” the friend replied.

“Yes, that’s what I’m asking. How do I change?”

“I told you,” her friend said. “HOW is how you change. Honesty. Openness. Willingness to try.”

HOW isn’t new. It’s not groundbreaking. But sometimes the best road to take is ground that’s been trod.

A friend called one day when I was struggling to take an action in my life that just wasn’t coming together. “Are you willing to try?” she asked.

“Right now I’m working on wanting to want to,” I said. “That’s the best I can do.”

Inventory Focus: Are you willing to take actions, small baby steps, even when those steps feel awkward and uncomfortable? If you’re not willing to take action to change, are you at least willing to become willing? That’s an action too. Willingness is a prerequisite to receive the power to act.

From the desk of Melody Beattie
Originally posted December 5, 2014

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  • Kayla

    I am feeling so enriched, reading this. I love the line about becoming willing to become willing. Grieving many losses in my life, I am feeling this soul-deep need to express my journey, to articulate how it’s impacted me, and how my soul journey is real. When I start to get lost in the current pain and powerlessness, and the traumas and wounding of my past, I know that I need to express what I know is beautiful and real in me. But it’s so painfully hard to allow myself to emerge. There is so much wounding that comes up, as soon as I begin to connect. Today I make a decision to become willing to become willing, to express myself authentically in the art forms that I love – but can very rarely flow in. I become willing to become willing to be gentle and loving with myself in discovering my purpose in life. I’m becoming willing to become willing to accept my process, the way it needs to be. I know there is a mission, a purpose, a journey for me. Today I’m willing to become willing to be taken.