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Be Nurturing to Others

February 11, 2020

Some people tend to kick others when they’re down. Sometimes that’s how we treat ourselves. Confrontation, honesty, even tough love, can go a long way in cementing solid relationships. All…

Learn to Heal Yourself

January 28, 2020

Sometimes we trick ourselves. If we feel unhappy, troubled, or scared, we race toward what we think will make us feel better. In desperation, in fear, we grasp for something,…

Lighten Up

January 14, 2020

The matter at hand is serious. It’s grave. We need to get serious about the relationship. We need to get serious about the task. Maybe what we really need to…

Safety

December 31, 2019

One of the long-term effects of living in a dysfunctional family—as children or adults—is that we don’t feel safe. Much of what we call codependency happens because we don’t feel…

Nurturing

December 17, 2019

A married couple I know were recently on vacation on an island in a foreign country. When the wife reached out to switch on the hotel lamp, she was surprised…

Become Willing to Heal Your Heart

December 03, 2019

We don’t open our hearts by being a tower of strength. We don’t open our hearts by glossing over things in our head. We open our hearts by feeling what…

Let Go of the Controls

November 19, 2019

“You have the controls,” my flight instructor says. “No, you have the controls,” I say back. “No I don’t,” he says. “You do.” My banter with my flight instructor can…

Trusting Ourselves

November 05, 2019

Trust can be one of the most confusing concepts in recovery. Who do we trust? For what? The most important trust issue we face is learning to trust ourselves. The…

Keep Yourself Charged

October 22, 2019

Imagine wearing an energy meter with three zones: green for safe, yellow for caution, red for danger. You’ve got a strip that reads each area of your life: nutrition, sleep,…