Acceptance

Being Right

April 20, 2021

Recovery is not about being right; it’s about allowing ourselves to be who we are and accepting others as they are. That concept can be difficult for many of us…

Letting Go of Sadness

January 26, 2021

A block to joy and love can be unresolved sadness from the past. In the past, we told ourselves many things to deny the pain: It doesn’t hurt that much….…

Accepting Who We Really Are

August 25, 2020

It’s easy to believe that loving ourselves unconditionally means only accepting our lighter, brighter parts. Most of us have a lot of guilt about who we really are. Challenge: The…

Accepting Change

July 14, 2020

The winds of change blow through our life, sometimes gently, sometimes like a tropical storm. Yes, we have resting places—time to adjust to another level of living, time to get…

Let Go of the Controls

November 19, 2019

“You have the controls,” my flight instructor says. “No, you have the controls,” I say back. “No I don’t,” he says. “You do.” My banter with my flight instructor can…

Let Go of the Past

July 30, 2019

I was sitting outside on the patio one morning. A foggy mist gently covered the peaks of the Ortega Mountain Range. The birds were singing. My mind wandered back to…

Accepting Love

June 04, 2019

Many of us have worked too hard to make relationships work; sometimes those relationships didn’t have a chance because the other person was unavailable or refused to participate. To compensate…

Be Aware of the Illusion of Control

March 26, 2019

Remember how it feels when we try to control someone else. “I was driving down the road one day behind a car that I decided was driving too slowly,” a…

Detaching with Love

November 20, 2018

Sometimes people we love do things we don’t like or approve of. We react. They react. Before long, we’re all reacting to each other, and the problem escalates. When do…

Accepting Help

July 31, 2018

Some of us have felt so alienated that we’ve forgotten we’re not alone. We’ve come to believe that we have to do it ourselves. Some of us have been abandoned.…