Gratitude isn’t denial. We can practice gratitude without denying how we feel. Sometimes we do need to change the circumstances in our lives. But we usually can’t do that until we accept what we have and who we are now.
One challenge about practicing gratitude is that the things we most need to be grateful for are often the things causing us the most misery. Practicing gratitude when we most need to do it can feel like the most unnatural act in the world.
Practicing gratitude can be difficult when we’re depressed or going through deep grief. Some things in life are so tragic that we’ll never be grateful that the event occurred.
I’m not grateful for my son’s death. I’d have him back in a heartbeat if I could. But I’m grateful that I had him in my life. I’m grateful for the lessons I’ve learned since he died. And I’m grateful I’m happy again.
Challenge: The hardest thing about practicing gratitude can be surrendering to God and trusting his will.
From the desk of Melody Beattie
Originally posted December 29, 2014
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