Letting Someone Help – Day 3

March 06, 2019

“Just call if you need help,” people offered when I was having surgery on my knee and finger. “Okay, I will,” I said. I knew that even though I’d be on crutches and have a cast on my arm, I’d do everything humanly possible to get through my recuperation alone.

My first night home from the hospital, I had to lower myself to the floor and drag myself across the room when I needed anything—like a glass of water. It was hard to drag myself back to the couch with one arm in a cast and hold anything in the other hand. I needed the free hand to push myself along. I figured out a system. I could first move my water in the direction I was headed. Then after I put it down, I could use that hand to get leverage to move myself. Quite a picture, isn’t it?

One of my fears is that I’ll be needy and dependent, expecting other people to take care of me as if they were substitute parents, like I did in my codependent years. There are times when we can do it ourselves. But wouldn’t a little help be nice?

Challenge: The hardest thing for me about asking for and receiving help is that I don’t want to be a burden to anyone. What’s the hardest thing for you? Maybe we could trust other people a little.

From the book: 52 Weeks of Conscious Contact

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